Loneliness: Why You Must Address it Right Away!

"And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him" (Genesis 2:18, KJV)

In the World pristine and perfect, marked with unclouded and meridian splendour from the creator’s hand, there was only one discordant note. It was a lonesome man. God saw everything He had created; behold, it was very good. But the man without another of equal nature to love and cherish was not good enough. 

Like most fellow readers, you can be in danger of hasty generalization based on the above topic. Come slow, and let’s unpack the peril of loneliness. 

Man in his novel estate from the creator’s hand was a social being. God did not fashion man in such a way as to enjoy being a loner. No wonder He always conducted a visitation in the cool of the Day.

To explore the dangers that come with loneliness we’ll cover:

1. The Fall of Man
2. David’s Networking
3. The Four Hebrew Boys
4. Christ the Saviour of the World
5. Even Paul, the Gospel Champion
6. The Heart of the Matter: The Matrimonial Perspective 
7. Why You Shouldn’t Be Alone

Let’s get started by looking at the world’s most catastrophic event, the fall of man.

The Fall of Man

Eve was made to realize that her safety was assured only in nearness to her husband, Adam. Walking alone, the tempter found her and twisted her mind.

And we are in the mess we are in today.

You hate me, and if asked why, you can’t even explain. The reason is a single lonesome venture of sister Eve.

Most grievous sins, most besetting sins, are transacted in secrecy. You should be aware that the angels are around you, so you can be afraid to presume convenience for sin. The greatest lesson from the fall in Eden is that loneliness incubates sin.

David’s Networking

If there’s a person who can testify of the power of friendship, it’s the son of Jesse.

Exposed to the wrath of a Spirit-bankrupt king of Israel, Saul, his life was at stake. Death was courting his young life before he could fulfil his God-ordained life purpose.

He attracted dependable friendship in Jonathan, the potential king in waiting. Israel was a Monarchical state. Because of this friendship, he received relevant safety signals of the King’s sinister schemes.

David also won pure love from Michal, the daughter of King Saul, and the frequency of his safety signals strengthened? Why are you alone?

The Four Hebrew Boys

Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah were taken to Babylonian Captivity while merely youths. They faced temptations that often overcame the millennials.

The pomp and glee of the Chaldeans were not different from all the forbidden grounds of our contemporary society. Many of us will sit on the enemy’s easy chair and say there’s nothing I can do.

They defied the indulgence of appetite which lies at the foundation of all moral evils known to man. This earned them a higher pedestal to resist false worship.

The Hebrew quartet proved true to God because they were united in purpose. What if everyone went his own way? There is a high likelihood that the world could have been deprived of their testimony. With reverberating tones, their testimony will stand forever as a standing rebuke to the transgressors of God’s law.

Christ the Saviour of the World

Christ, the redeemer of the World, had twelve apostles to help Him reach the whole world. He even secluded a special triad and made them His inner circle.

While sending them on a mission, He sent them two by two. While we could be all-sufficient, we always need people around us to help carry the good news on.

Even Paul, the Gospel Champion

Apostle Paul, the champion of missions and evangelism, often paired up with either Barnabas, Silas, or Timothy. Why are you alone?

The Heart of the Matter: The Matrimonial Perspective 

This could be the part you were waiting for and its okay, you’re covered.

God saw that Adam was alone. He solved it by creating a woman. She inspired Adam to become a poet; “Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh,” he said. The matrimonial relationship is a real deal. In fact, it is divine. 

Adam was done with his work of naming the animals and tending the garden. He enjoyed communion with God in the cool of the Day. He was busy in the Ministry for the entire creation. Adam earned the compliment of God, “It is not good for this man to be alone.“

So it is clear which man should not be alone.  It’s not any man. A man who is busy doing what God purposed him to do, a man who enjoys communion with God, and a man who is so busy in the Ministry to whoever needs his efforts.  This man should not be alone. His influence in the life of a woman, in the life of a child and in society at large is healthy, safe and beneficial.

When I think such a man, I can’t help and admire Abraham. See what God had to say about him:

"And the Lord said, “Shall I hide from Abraham what I am doing, since Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him? For I have known him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the Lord, to do righteousness and justice, that the Lord may bring to Abraham what He has spoken to him” (Genesis 18:17-19, NKJV). 

Are you that man? 

Remember, God, not Adam, realized that Adam needed a companion.

Did God say the same with you in mind? Or are you being presumptuous, like the Egyptians who dared to cross the Red Sea without God’s command? The results of such ventures are clear.  Don’t be an Egyptian, doing what God did not command you to do.

Again it is clear to underscore the fact that Adam was alone but not lonely. Are You alone and lonely? You probably need God, not a wife. 

No human being can fill the void in a man’s heart. Let Christ in before you let Eve in. You must develop the capacity to enjoy your own company before you enjoy other people’s company. You must bring your whole, not a half.

Why You Shouldn’t Be Alone

In conclusion, we should always realize that it is perilous to be a loner. You need to be in the company of others. The safest place for any Christian is the company of other Christians who share the same mission and zeal. You need people you’re accountable to and whom you can open to when the storms of life are raging.

The state of the World requires a united effort of the sons of light. This is true both now and in the coming days.

We must press together. We need to encourage one another to trim their Lamps. We are approaching the darkest hours of the earth’s long night. If you find yourself in a space where you’re all alone, remember you are not truly alone. God is with us.