How are you doing, friend?
Did you just say, “I am fine?”
How can you be fine? You have just taken another dart from the chains of addiction. You are battling this addiction.
As usual, you have lied to yourself, “Let me sin for the Last Time!”
The very last time, like all addicts, say.
How are you doing, sister?
Did you just say, “I am fine?”
How can it be that you’re fine yet tired of rendezvous of coquetry and abuse?
Do you call that fine? That is not fine by all possible definitions and synonyms of fine.
How are you doing, brother?
Did you just say, “I am fine?”
How can you be fine with all the toxicity boiling around you? You have lost the power to jump out of it.
You almost losing it because you are not in charge anymore!
How are you doing, elder?
Did you just say, “I am fine?”
How can you say that? Your life is going down a scary path you don’t want to meet in the resurrection morn.
Or are you saying you are fine with the second resurrection?
What if we were a little more honest?
Our answers would be like this…
“I’m not fine. I have messed up again!”
“I’m not fine. I am dissatisfied with the trend of my life lately.”
“I’m not fine. I’ve hit rock bottom, and I need a hand stronger than mine to help me get on my feet again.”
“I ain’t well. I am losing my head!”
“I ain’t fine. I am running on empty. I don’t remember when I had a good time studying the good book.”
But because we are fine,
Christ’s knock goes unanswered. We really don’t need help; everything is fine.
Our guardian angel ascends. The angel is pained and disappointed by our stubborn and continuous failures. Despite this, we arrogantly proclaim, WE ARE JUST FINE!
So, How are You Doing?
The Cleaver 
We are never fine at all moments… We keep on lying to ourselves and to those who ask and are concerned about us.
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This is so true. It’s okay to be fine, but there is everything wrong with pretending it’s all well while it is not
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We say we’re fine just to stop more questioning from people around us
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What about when God is the one asking the Questions, because he cares and will ask?😊
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It is always hard to express our true feelings at the first moment.
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O yes. Because we lack the supportive environment
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It’s okay not to be fine but we never admit we ain’t fine, sometimes we choose to always be fine because friends may ask only to bother you or make you feel they are concerned when they are really not… That’s why we feel safe to say we are fine 😊
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So, here is the other side of the coin. We are not providing a safe space for the bothered and discomfited! But we must tell Jesus everything
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Yes Jesus can help us, Jesus alone. I must tell Jesus al of my trials, I cannot bear my burdens alone.
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Amen and amen
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This is what has led to even lots of suicides in the today’s society, because we fear speaking 🗣️ up the truth about our condition/ situation. Fear of being judged or looked down upon. Thank you for sharing this.
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They say it’s an act of courage to just utter the words I AM NOT FINE, being that we love in the world where everyone expects you to be perfect especially when you where that hat of Christianity ( falling down means utter destruction).
But yet again let’s take up that mantle called courage and open all the closed doors in our hearts and untie the knots of depression, anger, regret, self accusation and pain. This opens us up to healing and gives us the strength to face the next mountains and valleys that will still come our way.
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O Yes. We must above all be truthful. And we should offer safe spaces for honest conversations
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Especially let’s ensure daily we honest to God in our closet. Telling it to home will help us be okay. Isaiah 26:3
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This is very true… I must Tell Jesus
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Let’s be honest to ourselves,we are not gine
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Very true
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How can we be dying in sin and say we are fine?
Definitely we are NOT
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Deep and soul searching
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Indeed am not fine!!!
Have forgotten reading that one good book(Holy One)
God revive my spirit that I go back to where I was searching word by word gaining heavenly wisdom and knowledge.
Is my prayer in Jesus name.🙏🙏
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You can always come Home
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Once we normalize being fragile, people will be honest with how they are doing.
How have I been doing lately? I’m alive. I’m breathing.
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It’s okay not to be okay… And we must offer supportive environment
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What if no one gets it only you know you ain’t fine,but you can’t tell anyone for they wouldn’t understand, you are sure only Christ can understand but then you honestly don’t hear him too,you feel that th Holy Spirit left and you are all alone ant the best you can do is cry every night when you are alone because honestly you can’t kill yourself you just end up battling depression day by day …How are we to respond to how are you in this case…Fine it won’t be true…Not fine probably but still can’t explain what is it you feel so you even can’t get helped…
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Only God can understand and solve all our issues….
See this exposition from Ps Kigundu Ndwiga, PhD.
“A good piece at Cleaver. A good piece. Many of us languish while we could get help from others. I am thinking too from the other side. Why do we say I am fine too fast? Let’s think about the following.
Is the person asking if I am fine really interested in my answer or they are just making small talk? To give details of how I am doing would involve starting a deeper relationship! Relationships take energy. Are we willing to invest that energy in the relationship? Sometimes not. So our quick response, we are fine is our first line of defense. If they follow up and persist, then we know they are serious and start opening up…
There is this interesting verse…Matthew 7:6 BSB
[6] Do not give dogs what is holy; do not throw your pearls before swine. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces.”
Sometimes, we need to know that the person who is asking if we are fine can value that which is so precious to me, myself.
Bottomline:
We are afraid of relationships….even with God…we are also proud too…we do not want to look needy….I guess the essence of sin is this fierce independence….I can handle my situation…I do not need anybody….I do not need God….
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